HOW BROKEN CAN LEAD TO MENDED

Can you realize that your falls happen to help you see what works?

When we're in a crisis, when something has gone terribly wrong -- you're very sick, addicted, broke, miserable, lost, very angry -- we often try to bargain with the Universe.

We say things like, "I'll do whatever it takes to fix this, even if it means giving up (insert thing you're addicted to e.g. unhealthy food, sugar, porn, excessive alcohol, excessive TV, gambling, over-spending...) if you (Universe) get me out of this."

Being in that place can show us so much.

Most of us slip from what we've promised the Universe after the crisis backs down. We inch back to the habits or indulgences that got us into that crisis and then often the cycle repeats.

What if you did an experiment, a sort of Pascal's Wager for your own wellbeing. What if you could say, "Okay, self and Universe, I'm only here for a short while. Why make it such a struggle? How about I try it the way I already know is better and see what happens?" Like you were just plunked down here on earth and you're here to see what makes this life successful for you, given your particular talents, interests and skills minus your addictions and bad habits.

A habit is by definition changeable. No matter how long you've done it that way. In addiction discussions, people talk about your "bottom," the place you had to get to to turn things around. For some, it seems tame compared to others. But the experience is the same: the person finally accepted that what they were doing was destroying them.

What about deciding to let the destruction create new growth? To do life differently right now. You know what they say: if you want different results, you gotta do different things.

What do you say?